Screamin' Roots

(That's "roots" as in "boots", Yankee. Unless you've ever told a cowboy you like his "butts" - don't say "ruts.")

There is a new girl at work. She's about 13, I think. No really, just kidding, she's 18. She's engaged.

You know, I thought we stopped doing that here in the U.S. - at least not in the 21st century, right?

I mean, sex at 18?

Happens all the time.

But marriage?

Come on.

What makes it even crazier (and what prompted this post) was I overheard her speaking with another lady about marriage counseling. Actually, let me rephrase for I do not wish to be misleading. What I mean to say is this. I overheard tiny little blips, like the following: (Please hear this in a squeaky, high pitched "blink, blink" tone of voice.)

"marriage counselor and he..."

"on the way back..."

" he said..."

"I mean, that's crazy!"

(I point this out as a simple matter of not-so-academic integrity. What I am about to tell you could very well have been misheard or misunderstood.)

While these tiny pieces of conversation stirred my eardrum largely unrecognized, I found myself shocked into awareness when she said, "so we picked capital punishment to talk about on the way home...(blink, blink)"

Is it really possible that you could be engaged to someone and not know their view on capital punishment? This absolutely floored me! What have they talked about? Do they talk? I mean, let's say they've been dating for 6 months (which seems rather short, but at the very least...). What could you talk about for 6 months that would consume your entire conversational life and lead you to marry the person yet never know their view on capital punishment?

I understand what I'm saying is clearly my point of view.

I understand not everyone is like me (it is a rather lofty goal after all).

I'm not trying to say capital punishment is highly relevant for all marriages, or that everyone ought to care about the intentional termination of the life of a fellow human being (cough, cough).

Bottom line? I'm just flabbergasted that you could know you want to live your whole life with someone and not have any clue as to that person's convictions concerning life, death, murder, life in prison, capital punishment, etc, etc...

Of course, I've saved the real kicker for last. I also overheard her say,

"My daddy won't even slow dance with my mother."

Wrong! Wrong! Sick and wrong! Somebody stop this poor girl! Really! I'm not being sarcastic!

My southern roots are screaming, "Jay-zus, Lawd help her!"

posted by Headless-in-GR @ 7/14/2005 07:49:00 PM

 

Comments:

Haloscan did it again, I think.

Anyway, This is more along the line of what I was thinking... some theoretical framework for analyzing the components of love.

1. Not having any clue about the other person means: no eros.

2. Does she have agape? Sounds to me like conditional love at best.

3. They, at least, seem to have philos or a friendship with each other.

4. Maybe she is over-emphazing libido with the hopes that this love can reach out / flow to the other areas that are barren and in need of repair.

But wot do I know?

# by:  Steve : 12:29 PM

 

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